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Abortion: Selfish or Selfless?
Having a Child: Selfish or Selfless?

Consider the factors of life
Consider the world around
Consider the world we live in and yours…
Full of ups and downs
Some experience more ups than downs
Others experience more downs than ups
Heartache and Pain
Happy and Joy
Different levels

Some people feel it’s wrong to have an abortion
but is it really so right to bring a child into THIS world?
is it the BEST decision for the child?
and if you don’t know
then you are in no position to provide the BEST
not even knowing what it is
nor doing all you can to know it.
They start to die the moment they come into this world
Can actually even die due to a miscarriage while still in the womb
What parent doesn’t want the best for their child?
What parent wants their child to go through pain
at any time in their life?
but you teach them pain
just by you raising your voice at them
or telling them no
the tears
the cause behind them
you pop them on the hand
you spank them
whoop them
or even beat them
a grown adult
hitting on a child
but you feel its the BEST
to have them feel pain
in order to learn a lesson
because that’s how you were raised
so think it’s the right course of action
when it’s really you assaulting a child
pain already learned so quickly
By the time you’re an adult
you should know better than that.
You should no to not hit ANYONE
let alone a child
no matter the age
It sends the wrong message
I don’t care how you look at it.

Bringing a child into this world
to vent out your frustration
because you know you can’t go hitting on an adult
if they don’t listen to you
without them pressing charges against you
so you think you can with a child
because why?

Bringing a child into this world
into your world inside of a bigger world
is it really so right?
Sure happiness and pain is just a way of life
And we can’t dictate how one turns out
no matter how and where one is raised
But that’s exactly my point
If you cannot guarantee your child a life filled with joy
Whether absent of pain altogether if at all possible
or whether life with more joy than sorrow
Why on earth, would you even consider giving birth?

And to the christian (or really anyone)
who persuades people to not go through with abortion
unless you are going to be there to raise that child
and give it the life it deserves free of pain
because no parent wants a child to experience pain
if they can at all help it
then who are you to even think to convince a woman
to go through with her pregnancy
are you going to be there when the child cries at all hours
are you going to be there to change diapers
are you going to be there emotionally
are you going to be there financially
are you going to be there at all?
HEY DAMMIT!
YOU are the one who wanted her to keep it
saying ‘it was the “right” thing to do’
even though a person may not be in the best condition possible
to have a child
but you want them to persevere
you want them to have a child in the midst of their struggle
why would anyone in their right mind
bring a child in the middle of turmoil and stress
a person should be the minimum of stable
on more levels than one
just like you have to be stable
in more ways than one to buy a car
a house
and those are just things
so why wouldn’t you WANT to be that
before bringing a child into this already stressful world?
just as you wouldn’t get into a marriage
not being ready on more than one level
at least anyone in their right mind
so you want the pregnant woman to not have an abortion
because you think it’s the right thing to do
but is it really?
is it really right
and based on what?
you want the baby
you take care of him or her
no questions asked
oh i get it
you don’t want to do that
you just want to try to dictate how someone lives
saying all you can with your little sales pitches
just to get them tied up into something they aren’t ready for
making them feel like it’s so wrong
manipulative
trying to control another’s life
and yet leave them out to dry
when the baby arrives
like your average man does to a woman
after getting her pregnant

you teach and preach
and get your face all twisted up
as if you’re mad at some devil
and yell and scream while giving a sermon
like you’re mad at the world
declaring and proclaiming
all beings are born INTO sin
well if you really believe that
then why have you chosen to get pregnant
why have you and your wife
chosen to go through with the pregnancy?
or you and whomever
to give birth to baby?
why would you go through with it
bringing a pure, innocent and helpless child
into a world you so intensely believe is so full of sin?
into a world where you hoot and holler
every sunday or wednesday or throughout the week
that a DEVIL is on the loose
and out to KILL, STEAL and DESTROY
each and every one of us?
Believing such a thing, why would you deliberately
put your child in harms way right from the beginning?
but you say abortion is selfish?
you say it’s wrong.
how much more wrong than your actions of actually giving birth?

i don’t recall christ ever bringing a child into this world
via getting another pregnant?
so why are you?
but you want to be like christ?
oh don’t go quoting the scripture
about how we are to be fruitful and multiply
procreate
because again christ didn’t
and you believe him to be the son of god
or god in flesh
even he didn’t
and don’t get all symbolic on me
saying his disciples and the church are like his children
because if you want to go there
then why don’t you practice what you preach
and let your “disciples” and church be your ONLY children
and that still doesn’t erase the real deal
the literal sense
because again
even with all that symbolic talk
he still didn’t have any children
that were birthed from his sperm
with another woman’s egg
point blank
ever thought to ask him why?
since you claim to have a relationship with him
and want so much to be like him
and be crucified like him
then be real about
why are you bringing children into what you feel is a sinful world?
a world that you declare at the top of your lungs
needs saving from the devil?
when there are already children out there
who are fatherless and motherless
are you selfish or selfless in your decision
to not adopt?
to not take care of another person’s child
i mean wasn’t it moses who was adopted?
oh yes we get over things
but we won’t go there

To anyone else
christian or not
If you cannot guarantee the BEST at all times for your child
then you need not bring them into this world.
it’s cruel and heartless
have you asked the child if they want to be brought here
just because you get pregnant doesn’t mean you NEED to give birth
it could be a lesson of just how selfish or selfless you are?
considering the conditions
and the beliefs you hold on to for dear life as if you’re doing the right thing
never mind the conditions that surround you
never mind the parent-less children already in existence
when you know the conditions of this world
and how life just is.
are you selfish or selfless?
do you really care about the well-being of a child?
if so, then why don’t you adopt instead?
life is a beautiful thing
but is the pain all worth it?

if you cannot provide the absolute best
in an already screwy world
for your child for the entire duration of their life on earth
then don’t bring them here
you will save them a lot of heartache and pain
if you really want a child THAT bad
stop being so damn selfish and
find one to adopt that’s already been brought here
by some person who probably was convinced to give a child
they weren’t ready for
There are PLENTY.

i’ve had a nice life
i’ve had my share of ups and downs
i’ve lived in many highs
i’ve lived in some betweens
i’ve lived in a few lows
i’ve laughed
i’ve smiled
i’ve cried
i’ve grieved
i’ve yelled
i’ve screamed
i’ve stressed
i’ve been depressed
i’ve been exalted
i’ve been powerless
i’ve hurt
i’ve felt good
i’ve been frustrated
i’ve felt strain
i’ve felt ecstatic
i’ve felt wonderful
i’ve felt special
and heck the list can go on and on
but can I honestly say it was all worth it?
can I honestly say if I could
I’d do it all over again?
the answer
no.
i’ve enjoyed my life overall
wasn’t adopted
rather i was raised by my birth parents
and wasn’t abused
so most of my views originate from
observation and just thoughts
put together
that often made me wonder
whether or not abortion was just as “wrong”
as giving birth to a child in this world
whether it was really right
to persuade someone to not have an abortion.
nevertheless,
what i can honestly say
is that
the pain was and is never worth the trouble
just to have and experience happiness
never.
i have no children
i’ve never been pregnant
so have never been in a position to have to choose
abortion or not
but I won’t ever bring a child into THIS world
especially since I don’t want any
but if I can adopt and am in a position to do so
you better believe i will
but since i don’t want kids
i probably won’t even do that
however if I gain a desire to have them
i will adopt instead.
so you might think that i’m wrong in my thoughts
because i don’t want to adopt due to my lack of desire
to raise children
but really i can feel like i want to and be justified
because i’m not the one going around
trying to tell people to not have an abortion
if she wants an abortion
then let her have it
without attempting to make her feel bad on the issue
kapeesh!
because who are you to tell her its wrong
and not tell the person who gives birth it’s wrong
by also adding to your pitch that
“you can give it up for adoption”
WTF?!
Do you realize just how insane that idea is?
with all the factors involved?
Do we honestly need another unwanted child in the system?
a child raised by the government
passing that child from one family to the next
if even a family at all
a child who will no doubt feel unwanted immediately
a child who’s life is just _________ (fill in the blanks)
are you going to be the one to adopt the child?
and if not
why not?
you’re the one that suggested it to the birth parent
so she wouldn’t have an abortion
why wouldn’t you be the first to say ‘I’?
and if you start off your sentence with because
or some excuse
then you’ve just proven my point.
next time you think about talking a pregnant woman
out of abortion
do her and the child a favor
and don’t.
because giving birth is not so righteous.

and to folks who donate their sperm and eggs
for free or for money
i don’t care how you look at it
in essence they are still your children
whom you’ve chosen to abandon
for what?
money?
oh my bad
to help someone else have children?
please
now you can do what you want
but you need to think twice
before trying to demand another not go through with an abortion
especially when it’s clearly and loudly evident
that they are not in any position to have one
it’s cruel for you to attempt to make her feel bad
HEY IF SHE DOESN’T WANT TO BRING A CHILD
INTO HER WORLD OF POVERTY
THEN LEAVE HER THE HELL ALONE!

AND IF A CHILD’S LIFE IS THAT IMPORTANT TO YOU
THEN TAKE YOUR ASS TO THE ADOPTION AGENCY
AND ADOPT AS MANY CHILDREN AS YOU CAN SUPPORT
INSTEAD OF BARKING UP THE TREE
OF A PREGNANT WOMAN WANTING TO ABORT!
YOU GOT IT?!
HAVE I MADE MYSELF CLEAR, YET?!
BACK OFF!

if you’re the type that want kids
then why not stop making babies and just ADOPT
considering the question:
why would you want to bring a child into this world?
because you feel he or she can make a difference?
well so can a child who’s waiting to be loved, wanted and adopted.
so why do you want to bring a child into this world?
because you want to add to your family?
well so can a child who’s waiting to be loved, wanted and adopted.
why do you want to bring a child into this world?
because you want to give meaning to your lives?
and again no matter what your answer is
the same will hold true –
so can a child who’s waiting to be loved, wanted and adopted
a child who already exists on earth.
are you just being selfish or selfless?
oh you want to experience being pregnant
and going through the giving birth process?
well … is that selfish or selfless?
you be the judge of that one.
sure, it’s not your responsibility to raise another person’s child
who they gave up for adoption
no more than it is your responsibility
nor right for that matter
to persuade a woman to not have an abortion
but you don’t let that stop you from beating the woman up with your
“abortion is wrong” speech.
if abortion is wrong then so is giving the child over to an adoption agency
how about that for a new sarcastic perspective?!
if you have a genuine love for children
it won’t matter if they are your flesh and blood or not.
so are you selfish or selfless?

you’re against abortion
as if you really care about the children, right?!
then adopt one or two or ten
as many as possible
to raise and treat those children
like they are your own flesh and blood
with the utmost best care ever
can’t adopt because the state doesn’t feel
you fit their requirements
well then get it together and try again
if it’s THAT important to you
you won’t stop until you get it
they want the best fit so be the best
offer the best on more levels than one

the most blessed people
aren’t the one’s that are birthed into this world
it’s those who leave it.

yes life is beautiful
but in the end
the pain just to feel some degree of happiness
is never worth it.

if i had been asked if i wanted to come to earth
after being shown what earth is like
i would have chosen to not.

you make the most of it, though
since you are already here
because unless you’re going to commit suicide
or assisted suicide
you really have no other choice.

life is beautiful
when absent of pain.

Abortion: Selfish or Selfless?
Having a Child: Selfish or Selfless?

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